REFLECTING ON WHAT REAL SUCCESS IS

Someone I hold very dear recently wrote to me about her refusal to go by the cultural standard in America to must pretend always to be successful, that we, our lives and work are in great shape and failure nowhere in sight. Failure is intrinsic to human life and we tend to forget that in a competitive society. My friend's statement prompted me to question my own ideas of what success is. To what standards do I hold myself? Who selected them? What does it mean to succeed in life? Are the values of our culture, my values? What do I consider success to be? The idea of success and having standards seems inextricable. A person who is truly successful has standards. Likewise, someone without standards can't be successful, not in the long run. That individual may appear successful to others, even themselves, but without standards, they are empty and will probably be unhappy and dissatisfied always with what they do have, and in their final days and hours, they will probably rue their ...